HAWAIIAN CEREMONY

Greeting ~ Oli Aloha

Onaona I ka hala, me ka lehua E hale lehua, no ia na ka noe

O kau no ia, e anoi nei E halia nei, hoi o ka hiki mai

A hiki mai no olua, a hiki pu no me ke aloha, Aloha e! Aloha e! Aloha e!

The Oli Aloha is a chant, which offers a word of greeting. It says, in

part, this is the sight for which I have longed. Now that you are here,

love has come. Aloha and welcome

We gather today in the spirit of love, the spirit we know intimately in

these islands as the spirit of Aloha. It is the same spirit that brought

you <groom> and <bride> together. We celebrate this new and exciting moment

in your life's journey, and embrace now this moment and wonders of creation

surrounding us.

There is so much beauty to behold here in Hawaii. Trade winds, fragrant

flowers, singing of the birds, sunsets. But I would like to take a moment

to focus on the ocean. This ocean has been here a long time flowing with a

sense of awe and life giving power. The ocean does so because it is alive

and constantly changing. The ocean brings life and cleanses all it touches

with its ebb and flow. So I invite you to be like the ocean. Be open to

changes, be excited about new challenges and share these moments with each

other.

LEI EXCHANGE( optional)

Here in Hawaii' we exchange flower leis, signifying our open hearts and love

for one another. The beautiful lei, with all of it's hand picked flowers,

are twined and carefully bonded together with love. A reflection of your

love and aloha for each other. As you exchange these leis, you will now

begin to weave your own lei of life. And now, with loving aloha, please

present your leis to one another.

READING - I Corinthians 13:4-7 optional

Love is patient. Love is kind. Love is not jealous or boastful. It is not

arrogant or rude. Love does not insist on it's own way. It is not

irritable or resentful. It does not rejoice in the wrong but rejoices in

the right. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things,

and endures all things. Love never ends. So faith, hope and love abide,

but the greatest of all is Love.

DECLARATION OF INTENTION * Please choose one

Option A ~ Revised Traditional:

______, will you have ______ to be your husband/wife to live together in

holy marriage? Will you love him/her, comfort him/her, honor and keep

him/her in sickness and in health, and forsaking all others, be faithful to

him/her as long as you both shall live?

(Groom and Bride respond: I will)

Option B ~ Contemporary:

______, will you have ______ to be your husband/wife, and will you love

him/her faithfully as long as you both shall live?

(Groom and Bride respond: I will)

Option C ~ Contemporary

______, do you find within you a special love for ______ that convinces you

that you want to spend the rest of your lives together? Do you find within

you the courage to face the challenges that you may encounter along your

journey together? Are you willing to love ______ into her/his unique

fullness, and to take the risk and accept the vulnerability of love again

and again?

(Groom and Bride respond: I do and I will)

Option D ~ Contemporary

______, do you here in the presence of God and these witnesses, declare your

commitment to ______ and choose her/him as the one with whom you wish to

spend the rest of your life? Do you give yourself to her/him and accept the

gift of self, which she/he gives to you? Do you also pledge to endure all of

the difficulties of life even as you look forward to sharing the joys to be

experienced together?

(Groom and Bride respond: I do)

EXCHANGING OF VOWS * Please choose one

Option A ~ Revised Traditional

In the Spirit of Love, I, ______, take you ______, to be my husband/wife,

To have and to hold, from this day forward,

For better for worse, for richer or poorer,

In sickness and in health,

To love and to cherish, now and forever

This is my solemn vow.

Option B ~ Contemporary

I, ______, take you, ______ to be my husband/wife,

And in doing so commit my life to you,

Encompassing all sorrows and joys,

All hardships and triumphs,

All the experiences of life;

A commitment made in love, kept in faith, lived in hope, and eternally made

new.

Option C ~ Contemporary

______, I offer you my love, my strength, and my support;

I offer you my loyalty, my faith and my hope

In all the changing circumstances of life,

As long as we both shall live

Option D ~ Contemporary

I, ______, promise you my love without any limits,

To accept the things you believe in

And to always try to understand you;

To trust in your love for me and pray it will grow stronger every day;

To plan with you and dream with you;

To laugh with you in joy, to grieve with you in sorrow,

To grow with you in love,

To do my best to show you how much I love you with all my heart,

For as long as we both shall live. Amen

EXCHANGE OF RINGS * Please choose one

Option A ~ Revised Traditional

______, I give you this ring, as a symbol of my love, and with all that I

am, and all that I have, I honor you

Option B ~ Contemporary

______, I give you this ring, as a symbol of my love and faithfulness

Option C ~ Contemporary

______, I give you this ring, as a symbol of my love, knowing that love is

precious and fragile, yet strong. Let this be a reminder, of all that I

have pledged to you here today.

CLOSING MARRIAGE CREED

<bride> and <groom>, you are finally united in matrimony. Go forth on your

Greeting

Aloha________&__________ welcome. We are gathered here in paradise surrounded by this pristine beauty to celebrate your union. You have brought us together so you may re-new your commitment today. You have been called to ________ Maui to declare your love. We are blessed to witness

this great joy you share. Your relationship and marriage has stood the

test of the times so far and the many challenges you of faced in this world. We acknowledge the ____ years that you have been together in this sacred covenant, and offer our Blessings to you for your continued happiness.

Pu (conch shell) and/or Hawaiian chant: (Upon request)

I would like to offer you a blessing chant, to welcome you to this place and to each other. I will call to Ke Akua (to the highest to all that is good and true) to come and bless you. We acknowledge your ancestors as well and welcome them in Spirit. If family or guests are present > (This chant and blessing extends to each of you present here. May you be blessed during this ceremony as well.

Lei Exchange:

When you exchange these leis here, you will be marking this place on earth for all time and space. They symbolize the extension of your Aloha (love) and the importance of Ohana (family). These flowers have been strung together signifying how you will weave your own lei of Aloha in the days, months, and years ahead. They also represent how your union has joined your families. These leis will not last. They are a reminder to Malama (take care of) each other every day you live and breath. To live each day fully. Please give your Ku'uipo (sweetheart) this lei and repeat after me. Then Honi (touch noses) this is to share your Ha (breath) and smile. GROOM "My beloved wife I encircle you with this lei" BRIDE "My beloved husband I encircle you with this lei." (touching each others leis) Please both repeat

after me. On this day I surround you with my love. I chose wisely

____years ago and today is a confirmation of that. Thank you for loving

me, and letting me love you. Honi (rub noses/breathe in) Tt will make you laugh. (Children, family members or guests can be honored here with leis) This is a Hawaiian custom and suggested for family or witnesses to have extra leis.

Declaration (vows):

Please extend your right hands. ________ &_________ With open hearts and hands. "Do you promise more then ever to love, honor, cherish and respect

your partner for all the days of your life. "I will" Please join your

right hands together. Do you vow not only to continue to take care of your partner but also to do your part by taking care of yourselves? "We do" Keeping your hands and hearts together gaze now into each other's eyes. This person has graced your life and is now your best friend. So gaze into these the windows to the soul and breath into your partners heart. Feel yourself in here. For your love is now living in your partner's heart. Feel this hand that has been there for you. Look in these eyes your place of refuge. Listen now to the heartbeat of the rolling surf. Feel Gods breath on your skin. Breathe in the fragrance rising and dancing through the rays of the sun. Listen to the birds in the distance. (If in a chapel the words will differ.]

(Pause) Do you re-new your vow today, to share all of your tomorrows, to stay only unto each other for better or for worse for richer or for poorer in sickness and in health for all the days of your life.? "We do"

Ho'opono pono: (forgiveness/ healing of the past to fully live in the

present) [upon request]

If there is anything of your past that no longer serves you and your highest good together, let it go now. Through trust and faith, compost it beneath your feet. As you breathe deeply. Here in this fertile soil you will plant

new seeds. For this is the time to re-new yourselves, and your Spirit so

the new seeds can grow and bear fruit. Please close your eyes for a moment and go within to search yourself. Forgive and ask for forgiveness.Welcome healing now...You may do this on a deeper level during your time in our Islands. Bathe in the ocean or go to a stream and cleanse. Here the Spirit of Aloha can enter you and dwell in the house of your hearts. Then you can recall it whenever you need in the future, and it will follow you on your path. If you seek this place within, peace and harmony will follow you. Please repeat: Will you forgive me for all or my past thoughts, words, actions or deeds.? "Yes my beloved I forgive you and now forgive myself"

Blessing of Rings: (If using wedding rings or giving a new ring)

These rings have encircled your fingers and reminded you of your continue commitment. Now you will sanctify this moment, by the exchange of these unbroken

circles one again. May you elevate your love now by giving your partner this ring again, as well surround there finger with the endless circumference of your devotion. Remember now your first kiss and your wedding day. Rev. Alalani blesses rings

Groom "With this ring I re-commit myself to you as your husband. With devotion I encircle you with my love." Bride "With this ring I re-commit myself to you as your wife. With devotion I encircle you w/ my love" Remember this moment like your first kiss and your wedding day.

Pronouncement:

With every Sun and Moon that rises and sets. Through every season that passes, may you create cherished memories. May your future together flow like this eternal moment. With that and the power invested in be by God before these witnesses it is my honor and privilege to re-pronounce you husband and wife. Groom "I think you know what to do now."

Personal vows, music, etc. may be incorporated into wedding ceremony. Religious ceremony: Includes Pule (prayer) and scripture readings. Contemporary ceremony does not mention God or Jesus..